‘My sister-in-law is copying all my wedding plans – but she’s already married’

When it comes to weddings, some people can end up getting a little carried away – and we’re not just talking about the bride and groom.

The couple’s family can become very invested in the wedding planning, as one bride-to-be has shown.

An unnamed woman took to Reddit to share her unique story, claiming that her fiancé’s sister is causing some issues as she wants to copy everything she does, despite already being married.

In a post on r/AmITheA**hole, the bride explained that ever since she got engaged, her future sister-in-law has been very “jealous”, wanting everything that she has – including her engagement ring, wedding dress and wedding band.

She wrote: “For some background context, a few years ago when my fiancé proposed to me, [SIL] got jealous of my ring and wanted to order the exact same one and replace her own engagement ring. Mind you, she’s married with four kids and she’s more than 10 years older than me and my fiancé (aka her brother).

“She was insisting on getting her ring replaced and I found it very weird so did my fiancé and he tried to tell her multiple times to cut it off. Few months later she ended up getting her ring replaced and her fiancé got the same one as mine.

“Now with my wedding, she saw my wedding dress and insists on getting the same dress as my wedding dress just in a different colour.

“She also found wedding bands like the ones we got and she got them too as a simple ring for herself. When she made the convo about the wedding dress I told her I’m not comfortable with that and I could help her find a really nice dress if she wanted. She got mad and started screaming at me that I’m not letting her shine and I’m scared that she’ll overshadow me. I told her that my wedding is not about her and she needs to get over herself.”

The bride says her partner backed her up and told his sister to stop behaving like this, or she won’t be invited to the wedding at all.

However, later that day, the bride-to-be received a call from her future mother-in-law, who was furious that she’d upset her daughter and was “creating issues in the family”.

She told her that if the sister wants to wear a dress like hers, she should just “suck it up.”

“My FIL took our side and said that my SIL and MIL are out of their minds for these demands. But the rest of my fiancé’s family said we are TA because we’re making a big deal out of a stupid dress and stupid rings,” she added.

“AITA for telling my SIL my wedding is not about her??”

More than 700 people have since responded to the Reddit post, with many agreeing the bride had done nothing wrong.

One person said: “I remember seeing a similar post to this and the girl just started lying to her SIL. The girls had both been engaged at the same time it wasn’t a double wedding or anything they were just simultaneously planning and the SIL was being a copy cat down to the last detail. So she started telling her ‘I’m ordering lilies for centrepieces’ but it would have actually been roses. Or ‘my dress is going to be lace and champagne’ but it was completely different. Maybe that’s the approach needed here.”

Another wrote: “Your sister in law IS trying to ‘outshine’ you. She told on HERSELF with her comment. She’s probably extremely jealous and very insecure. You are younger. You are meeting a new life milestone and getting lots of attention. You don’t have four kids. The major life milestones are sort of over for her for a while. She’s already been married. She’s already had the grandbabies and been fawned over. Her kids are older and not cute attention-grabbing newborn anymore. She probably doesn’t have much going on outside of the grunt work of parenthood times four and is probably extremely jealous of your youth, your new milestones, and the positive attention you are receiving for them…. since that part of her life (everything new and shiney and exciting) is long gone.

“Honesty I would ban her from the wedding. She’s not in a good place mentally and will probably try to destroy it.”

A third added: ” I would not let that woman NEAR my wedding. Who knows what kind of crap she’ll pull.”